| Synchrodestiny - Dr. Deepak Chopra |
| ISBN 184413221-8 |
Chopra shows how coincidences are messages about the miraculous potential of each moment. He reveals how, through understanding the forces that shape coincidences, you can learn to live life at a deeper level and access the flow of synchronicity that lies at the heart of existence. You can start to transform your life through full-contact living, in which all things will be within your reach. The seeds of a perfect destiny lie within you – this book will show you how to release this potential and live a life more wondrous than dreams.
Last week, I got caught up in Northern Europe's travel chaos (a little snow and a lot of chaos!) and ended up flying to Grenoble two days later than planned. The result was that I ended up making what should have been a two-hour road journey in four hours.
Why? Because the French (I mean ALL OF THEM!) go on their holidays on the same day, at the same time.
If you're vaguely interested in psychology, you nay have heard of Philip Zimbardo, who carried out the infamous Stanford University Prison experiment in which students were randomly assigned as prisoners or prison guards. What was scheduled to last two weeks had to be stopped after sic days as the 'guards' became excessively violent and the 'prisoners' became increasingly traumatised.
Zimbardo's theories and research led him to recently explain that we (you and me) can never achieve anything much in life if we adopt the 'herd mentality' - and, Oh My God, did I witness that herd mentality on Saturday. Imagine sitting in an eight hour traffic jam where the traffic stood so still that everyone got out their picnic tables and ate on the autoroute?
These legendary traffic jams are regular events - Saturdays for the winter skiing and summer holidays. After all, how could you be different and go on holidays a day earlier or later?
But, of course, we shouldn't be amazed by this. Think about it - most of feel much more comfortable as part of the herd.
Do you think that Bill Gates thinks there’s a box? Or Warren Buffet? Do you think that Muhammad Ali thought there was a box? What about Sir Richard Branson? How do you think Tiger Woods or Roger Federer would feel if they thought that they had to operate inside ‘the box’.
Very often, I hear business leaders – I mean ‘normal’ business leaders, not the people whose names we all know – talk about ‘thinking outside the box’. This phrase is frequently used in business, whether it relates to problem solving or innovation. Lots of business people talk about it – very few ever rise to what is in fact not much of a challenge at all. What very few of them have realised is that there is no box!
Only special people, unusually successful people – in other words, not normal people – realise this fact. That’s why we all know their names – they stand head and shoulders above the rest of us.
There is no box – other than the box we create for ourselves. From a very early age, society and education fashion a box for us – and because we’re all in the box together, it seems OK. “Get yourself a good education” (Bill Gates dropped out of university) or “Get yourself a good job” (Richard Branson left school when he was sixteen and started Student magazine).
When you do get yourself a good job, you’re taught how to be a “team player” – that really means “Don’t do anything that would upset anyone else on the team, play by the rules and, for God’s sake, don’t do anything unusual or innovative.” And, of course, organisations have a “corporate culture” – that means “this is how we do things around here – conform”.
So the box – that you’ve effortlessly slid into – is all around you, supported by the mindless behaviour of all the other clones. And when I hear people talking about “thinking outside the box”, I know for a fact, that most of them never will. Never mind “thinking outside the box” – what about living outside it?
The Buddha knew there was no box – it just took him a while to experience it. And the people I’ve already mentioned had some inkling too – although, perhaps, only in relation to certain aspects of their lives, where they were more driven towards the achievement of their goals.
The box that you live in – the box that you think inside – was created for you during your formative years – at home, at school, at college, in your first job or two. It’s based on what other people told you – and, like a sheep, you’ve conformed – you’ve followed. The blind have been leading the blind.
It’s time to step outside the box.
But, actually, you already know how to do that – we all do it from time to time, without realising we’re free! For example, I mentioned problem solving earlier. When are you most likely to think of the solution to something that’s been bugging you? When you’re not thinking about it, of course! When you’re in the toilet, the bath, or brushing your teeth.
Of course, you’re not being a team player in the toilet – corporate culture is never squeezed onto your toothbrush! You solve problems when you accidentally wander outside the box. What you need to be able to do is wander outside the box when you decide – who knows, you might even stay outside and, in doing so, realise that, in reality, there never was a box.
Artists, scientists, inventors all wander outside the box too – Picasso called it inspiration, Thomas Edison cultivated his ability to wander when he felt like it. You’ve got to do the same.
How? Well, does ‘sitting on the toilet’ give you a hint? We need to make space in our lives to do nothing – to daydream (which is completely different from being distracted or letting your mind wander – but other articles deal with this). The Buddha became enlightened when he was sitting under a tree. Newton discovered gravity while he was doing the same thing.
The best way to be inspired, of having ground-breaking ideas, of innovatively solving problems, is to take a step back from what you’re doing, to slow down, to give your mind the space it needs to be inspired. And, to do this as an integral part of your daily life.
I’m not talking about power napping, nor am I talking about meditating in the conventional sense, nor am I suggesting you go for a walk to think things through. I suggest to you – to all my clients – that you set aside a little time most days to sit down – by the river or canal, at a pavement cafe, on your patio or balcony in the evening – and do absolutely nothing.
You might be surprised by what dawns on you.