This Week's Five Minute Video Seminar - "How to Cope When Things Go Wrong" |
| Crap happens - all of the time! And the problem is that, normally, we react to all the shit and make things even worse. Of course, the best way to deal with the bad stuff that life throws at us - big and small - is to simply deal with it and move on. But, often, we get upset, disappointed, angry, victimised. And that gets in the way of doing the bets we can to do the right thing and get on with our lives. You need to understand that acting - not reacting - makes life so much easier, enables you handle the crap and be the better for the experience.Watch the video... |
| Effective Thinking for Uncommon Success Gerald Kushel |
| ISBN 0 8144 5964 1 |
My mentor, Jerry Kushel, wrote this in the 80s. Simple English – no need to complicate the simple manner in which we “all choose our own thoughts”. I’m not sure how easy this book is to get – but it would be worth searching for. WH
Why are some people enormously successful in their professions and in their personal lives? Is it pure luck? Effective Thinking for Uncommon Success shows you that success has nothing to do with luck, or even talent – it’s all in how and what you choose to think. Based on research conducted by the author, Gerald Kushel with nearly 1,200 high achievers, this book reveals a simple but powerful thinking technique that all of us can learn. Kushel’s finely honed method is based on the fact that you have completely free will as to how you think. You decide, from moment to moment, how you act, think and react. Effective Thinking for Uncommon Success shows you how to change the way you think, leading to three-dimensional success, consisting of high job performance, high job satisfaction and high personal life satisfaction. How successful can you be? Effective Thinking for Uncommon Success shows that there is nothing limiting you except the way you think!
Every week we take a look at a real-life story that simply proves that so-called normal people are 'all over the place'!
Most of us spend a large part of our time gossiping. It might be about little “harmless” things, like the neighbours’ behaviour, how someone down the road was caught with someone else’s wife, how the guy next door was caught drink-driving. Or how one of our children’s friends got drunk (and sick on the school bus). Many of us, to a greater or lesser extent, delight in gossip – particularly if it involves someone else falling on their face.
More recently, I think we’ve all witnessed the apparent competition that is doing the rounds in restaurants, bars, clubs, bus stops – anywhere where normal people congregate. The competition? Who can tell the worst story! Not only are normal people wallowing in stories relating to our current economic woes – they are actually competing with each other. Who has the newest baddest news first! Or someone tells a depressing story and everyone else in the group tries to “better” it!
And, many of my clients are not too far off doing the same thing at the moment – and they should know better! Could it be that we’re all only one small step from falling into and wallowing in the rising tide of normality?
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| by Willie Horton www.gurdy.net |
Tony deMello, the renowned Indian spiritualist commented, before his untimely death in 1987 that the individual and global problems that we face in our daily life are the result of us becoming disconnected from our true nature. And that was a good ten years before even email became popular. What would he make of what passes for the real world in the 21st. Century?
Members of Second Life pay good money – and spend up to sixteen hours a day online – creating the life they want in a virtual 3D world. What about creating the life that they really, really want in our very own ordinary, everyday 4D world – the world in which most of us exist but in which very few of us actually seem to live. I say that because university research suggest that “normal” people use about 1% of their mental capacity to live in, focus on and experience the present moment. But, the present moment is the only place we can actually be – so, if you’re not there, what are you doing – surely, whatever it is, it’s not called Living.
The same Tony deMello suggested that “normal” people live their lives asleep – never realising that, to live the life that they really, really want, all they would have to do is wake up. He wouldn’t be the first spiritualist to say that! Waking up simply means coming to your senses. You have five of them – use them to appreciate and experience the here and now.
If you do, you’ll discover something abnormal – in the present moment there is no stress, no worry. If you’re focused in the present moment you forget your useless thoughts – so you do the job that you think you don’t like better – and it becomes easier. You become more effective, more efficient, more present, have more presence, become more impressive and more alert to what’s really going on around you – not what your normally inadequate and defensive mind thinks is going on.
So, start paying attention to what you see, feel, hear, smell and taste – as if you were experiencing what’s going on for the very first time. Start focusing in the present moment – neuro-psychology proves that the chances of you being happy and successful are directly linked to your ability to pay attention. So, develop that ability. If you don’t you might as way log on to Second Life and concoct some sort of nonsense that will numb your senses and remove from the real world that you think, in your muddled mind, is “not too bad”.
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