This Week's Insight...

Now is the Moment

The old saying suggests that “there’s no time like the present” – and that is, indeed, the case.  Now is all you have – Now is the moment in which you need to do your very best, regardless of what you’re doing or where you are, now.

If you’re doing something really mundane – like taking the dishes out of the dishwasher, or writing this month’s management report – do it as if your life depended upon it.  Because, in reality, it does.  If you insist, through normal automatic mindlessness, on doing your mundane tasks mundanely, your life will always be mundane – nothing exceptional will ever happen nor be achieved.  Is that the kind of life you want?

In contrast, you can choose to live an effortlessly happy and uncommonly successful life – the exact opposite of the normal life.   But that choice needs to be made NOW – in this moment – it’s not something you aspire to, nor do you only try to give your all when you think it’s important.  You have to give your all, all of the time – even in the most mundane tasks.  Because this moment, now, is all you have.  Now truly is the moment.

 

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This Week's Book
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To Succeed... Just Let Go - Willie Horton

ISBN 1-85756-645-9

Do you ever feel that nothing works out for you and that you are not actually much of a success at anything?  Do you find yourself dreaming about what you would really like to happen in you life but always dismiss these thoughts as unobtainable and fanciful?   It doesn’t have to be that way.  What you are lacking is self-belief.   In this book, Willie Horton looks closely at our attitude to life and the fundamental importance of positive thinking in achieving our goals.  He takes us through various mind-training processes, encouraging us to identify our desires in life, work out a plan as to how to achieve them and then work assertively towards the fulfilment of those goals.   He stresses the need for the strength of will not to give up in the face of adversity.   To Succeed … Just Let Go tackles issues that affect many of us at some time in our lives, especially during periods of frustration or stagnation.  It is a practical and accessible guide to facing life head on and throwing down the gauntlet to good fortune and success.
Publisher's Note
No apologies for recommending my own book again - with so many additional Ezine readers signing up over the last couple of weeks, I think they're as entitled to know about it as the rest of us!! Based on the two-day workshop (as it was in 2004) – a simple guide on how to get the most out of life – an easy reminder, for those who have done the workshop, of a couple of its key points. Willie Horton
Just how mad are so-called 'normal' people!!

Every week we take a look at a real-life story that simply proves that so-called normal people are 'all over the place'!

There’s nothing like a nice social game of tennis.    And, I can assure you, playing tennis with Sandra was nothing like a social game of tennis!  

Having spent many hours in tennis clubs over the last few years (our daughter Louise is a pretty handy player) I’ve seen all manner of tactics used to put off the opponent.  But that was competition tennis and, indeed, even in competition tennis foot-faults are never, ever called.

Therefore, it’s with a degree of awe (principally because it was so awful) that I recall an incident during a “friendly” ladies doubles at a tennis club in Dublin many years ago.   One of the players, Sandra, was becoming increasingly infuriated by her inability to easily thrash someone that she saw, undoubtedly, as an inferior being.  Sandra, it must be said, is one of those people (and they come in all shapes and sizes of both sexes) with very little else in her life other than, in her mid-forties, a belief that she may ascend to a top-ten position in the tennis world rankings!

During the doubles, as Sandra’s opponents began to run away with the match and oozed confidence (remember this is only social tennis we’re talking about) Sandra stopped the match in mid-point. “You’ll have to take a second serve on that” she said to her opponent “because you foot-faulted – in fact, you’ve been foot-faulting most of the time – you obviously don’t know the rules!”

An umpire in a semi-professional match cannot see a foot-fault from his high-chair.  How Sandra could see it from the other end of the court still amazes me!  But, it had the desired effect.  Her opponents lost their concentration, couldn’t serve properly anymore and lost the match.

Social tennis!

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Issue No.: 028 : June 28, 2009
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Lead Article

It's Dangerous to Recognize!

by Willie Horton www.gurdy.net

 

We all have the ability to recognise – someone we already know, a difficult situation when we see one, an opportunity that’s staring us in the face or a problem that needs our attention.   However, our psychological ability to recognise is just as much a curse as it is a blessing.

 

Willie Horton

We take in raw data through our body’s five senses – a psychologist would term this “bottom up” data – through the process of cognition.   At this point, the data, of itself is meaningless – we need to interpret it.   This is done by adding our “stored knowledge” or “top down information” to the raw data and, in this way, we make sense of what is going on.   This is the process of re-cognition.

As I said, this process enables us to make sense of the present moment.  Or does it?   The big problem with our stored knowledge or top down information is that, generally speaking, it is decades out of date.   We generally start storing key elements of that “knowledge” between 12 and 18 months – when we create “schemata” (or pigeonholes) into which we then fit anything similar that we might encounter in later life.   From an evolutionary perspective, this gave us a huge advantage – we didn’t have to waste our precious attention on routine day-to-day stuff – we needed that attention to watch out for the next man-eating tiger that might otherwise devour us!

But the result is that, in the modern day, we pay little or no attention to what our senses are actually telling us in the present moment – we prefer, automatically and subconsciously of course, to let our top down information make sense of what’s going on for us.  And, in the process, we make nonsense of the present moment and react accordingly.

Somewhere between 12 and 25 years (adolescence), we generally stop taking in new top down information.   That has drastic implications for the rest of our lives because, for the rest of our lives, we live in an illusory world of make believe – we create what we think is going on based on out of date information.   As a result, so-called “normal” people never really appreciate what is actually happening – everything is “filtered” through their stored knowledge – and, as result, they react to what they think is going on.  And, as you and I know, reacting generally makes matters worse, not better.

Quick example.   Somebody at work asks you to do something.  Because of the way we automatically pigeonhole people, you will have made up your mind whether you like or dislike the person who’s doing the asking within four minutes of meeting them for the first time.   Say, for example, she reminds you of your sister-in-law (and you hate your sister-in-law because she reminds you of someone who bullied you at school thirty years ago).   Also, the thing you’ve been asked to do is something that you think you don’t like doing – you might, for example, have a hang-up about putting together some sales figures because, when you were small, your father gave you grief over how awful your math marks were (these are all true client stories, by the way).

So, someone, who not only could be the nicest person in the world but who might also have a major impact on your career and on your life, asks you to do a simple task – and you snarl at them in return.  It’s an automatic reaction.   The request is the raw data – but you’ve made nonsense of the request based on a load of out-dated notions that are stored deeply on your subconscious.  And that’s the process of recognition.

And that’s what gets normal adults into trouble.  Conflict breaks out at work and at home – not because of what’s actually going on but because of what normal people think is going on.  But, worse than that, real opportunities are missed because they are never spotted in the first place.   The opportunity could be staring you in the face and, because of your top down data, you wouldn’t recognize it for what it truly is.

Normal people need to stop recognizing and start cognizing all over again.  That’s why so many business and sports people meditate – it enables them stop recognizing and start experiencing what is actually and really going on, using their five senses, in the present moment.   Watch your TVs – all the great sports people “meditate” before a field kick or a tee shot, before a penalty or a serve in tennis.   And I meditation was good enough for someone as prolifically successful in business as Thomas Edison well then, it’s good enough for me.

Start paying attention to what your five senses are actually telling you.  Stop analyzing, judging, adding your top down out of date information.   Whether it’s through some form of formal meditation or just “stopping to smell the roses” – break the vicious cycle of the normal repetitive behaviour that normal recognition automatically produces.

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