The Bi-Weekly Personal Development Ezine from Gurdy.Net

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT IS FOR LIFE!

Just like the car you choose to drive, the clothes that you fancy yourself in, the food you eat and the exercise that you take, personal development is, above all else, a lifestyle choice.  However, unlike a snap decision to buy the latest fashion item, personal development is not something that you can take up and put down whenever the feeling takes you.  Personal development is for life! It is something to which you have to commit yourself, something with which you have to persevere and something that you must weave into the fabric of your everyday life.   It’s not a once-off decision nor is it a decision to be taken lightly, because personal development is not for the faint-hearted.   Because personal development is about coming to terms with why you are the way you are, why your life is as it is and, more importantly, getting to know the real you and what the real you is capable of.

Unfortunately, much of the conventional wisdom out there would have you believe that personal development is easy, quick and painless and something about which you make a once in a lifetime choice – as in ‘I’ve read a book and now I understand’ or ‘I’ve done a course that has changed my life’.   Life is not that simple.   In particular, life is complicated by the fact that the way we’re hard-wired will always leave the subconscious mind yearning for a return to the simple, mundane, ordinary, not-too-bad life.   This is a psychological fact.  In addition, the few who have been struck by lightning or experience a life-changing epiphany are both very lucky and few and far between.   And, as far as I can see, many who have found themselves in this position have done so by virtue of the fact that they have hit rock bottom first.   Most of us don’t hit rock bottom and, therefore, most of us don’t have a compelling enough reason to be open to that moment of inspiration that constitutes a life-changing flash of enlightenment.

For most ordinary people life is ordinary, with its challenges, worries, ups and downs.  We don’t become desperate enough to take a once and for all leap into the unknown because our known is not so bad.   Consequently, we trudge along from day to day in the fog created by our subconscious mind’s obsession with our formative years.   In order to alter this day-to-day existence (I’d hardly call it living) day-to-day action is required.  In fact, it’s more like moment-to-moment action that’s called for.    Of course, you trudge through life out of choice and each thing you do or don’t do moment-to-moment is the result of choice also.   Unfortunately, it is our subconscious mind that makes these routine choices for us and, as we’ve already seen, it hankers for the known, the safe, the mundane.  And, as a result, we short-change ourselves, going through life without realizing that we’re missing it.

But, if you’ve arrived at the point of restlessness or mild dissatisfaction that you simply cannot shake, then you will have browsed personal development websites, you might have read a couple of books, you will have arrived at reading this article.  And you will have come across all kinds of advice from all kinds of people, from those that would have you believe that if you get that new car, condo or yacht, your life will be different, to those that will tell you that, to get what you want out of life, all you have to do is believe and leave the rest to universal energy.   Sure enough, universal energy is responsive to our input – quantum physics has established the responsive nature and non-local communicative nature of energy.   But this responsive universe exists moment to moment, in the same way that life must be lived moment to moment.   And that presents most of us with a big challenge – you have to choose to be present and engaged, moment to moment.

The point that I’m making is that personal development is a moment-to-moment thing.   If you do really and truly want to change your life the changes are derived from the small changes that you make moment to moment.   That means commitment, vigilance and the perseverance to pick yourself up and start over each and every time that you falter.   A client once asked my ‘Does that mean that if I falter forty times today, I have to pick myself up and start over forty one times?’   The simple answer is yes.   And that is why the steps that you take need to become part and parcel of who you are and what you do moment to moment.   
This means that you need to find ways of choosing to be focused throughout the day, rather than allowing your subconscious mind to focus on the conditioning that inevitably results in a mundane life.   This means that, for example, even those who meditate to focus their mind first thing in the morning but don’t take steps to maintain their focus during the day will inevitably falter and, perhaps, never realize that it’s during the cut and thrust of the normal day that you need your focus most.   And that will only lead to frustration, disillusionment and the conclusion that this personal development thing was of no benefit in the first place.

But it is.  It is life-changing.  It is transformative.   And the amazing thing is that it is all these things as a result of tiny, apparently insignificant, steps that you take moment-to-moment.   Like, for example, choosing to brush your teeth in a non-routine way, choosing to break with routine and have something completely different for dinner or, indeed, something as ridiculously simple as choosing to sit in a non-routine place to eat that dinner.   You see, by breaking down the small routine in our lives, our minds become attuned to the ease with which routine can be broken.   When you become accustomed to doing small things in a non-routine way, the whole fabric of your routine life evaporates and you are left with the endless possibilities that real life has on offer.   But, as I said, this option is not for the faint-hearted nor, indeed, for someone who is looking for a quick fix.