Pick the most exciting moment that you jotted down following my Quick Tip in the last Ezine. On and off, over the next few days, let yourself daydream a little (or a lot) about what the experience would be like were you to achieve the objective of finding yourself in that perfect moment. What might you see, how would you feel, what kind of things or people would you hear. What would you be eating or drinking (if anything), what aromas would you smell. Just think about it... that will do for now!

We have arrived at the heart of the matter: being and behaving like a proper human being will enable you truly lead your life and lead and inspire those around you. But what does "proper human being" mean?

Well, you can behave and react automatically, like a zombie, running repetitive programs that "enable" you "live" your life... that's what the vast majority of us do - and we call it living. You could look in the mirror every morning with varying degrees of contentment, loathing, love or despair and not see who's really there because we see the ourselves through our personality - which means we see everything and everyone through our personality... that's what the vast majority of us do. You could manipulate your way through the day to ensure that your self-esteem is bolstered and that the cracks in your self-confidence are papered over... that's what the vast majority of us do. You could jostle for position, compete with your fellow man or woman by fair means or, mainly, foul...

Or you could be in the moment, live in the moment, experience the moment - experience the reality of you and the reality of others. Simply being there discards the detritus of a normal upbringing, the nonsense of the perceived personality - because simply being here means that there's not enough of our limited attentional capacity left to listen to the crap in our own heads... in overturning how we use our minds we literally overturn our lives and, thus, start living. Then we experience real life and experience others by not seeing them through the polution of personality - ours or theirs. You become a real person, there for everyone in that moment.

These are the kind of people that others want to be around, to work with, the live life to the full with - the essential proper human beingness of which authentic leaders are made. By turning up to your own life in the only time and place that it is taking place - here and now - you start truly living your life, leading your life and becoming a leading light for those around you.