Instead of, as I say in the video, throwing your life away, deliberately live a few special moments today. Every moment is, in reality, a special moment, but the nonsense of trying to handle all the normal crazy people around you might give you the impression that that is not so. So, deliberately pause for a couple of moments, a couple of times, today and see, feel, hear, smell and taste the moment. Drink it in, appreciate it - it is a moment of your life and your life is lived in moments.

No doubt, you've heard the expression that you don't appreciate what you have until you've lost it... it's a truism. I could give you multiple examples of people with whom I've worked, friends and family members who have either lost someone dear (or even something precious) or have faced up to their own impending death, with, to say the least, regret and longing for what is lost or in the process of being lost.

Many years ago, a friend of ours was given 48 hours to live, having suffered a severe brain haemorrhage. Having come out of the danger period and, ultimately, having made a full recovery, she told us that she saw life with fresh eyes and would value every moment from then on. In particular, she told us that she would never raise her voice to her precious children, never, ever! Three months later, as we did our weekly grocery shop, we heard a commotion in the next aisle of the supermarket - there she was, screaming at her children and, if everyone's full view, giving one of them a hefty slap for good measure.

So, not only do we not appreciate what we have but, even when it dawns on it that we really must, we slip easily back into the horrible mindlessness that characterizes every act of aggression or even frustration or annoyance.

And, yet, as I type these words, with a throbbing pain all down one side of my face (having gone to the dentist for some root canal work and having been subjected to a double-whammy because her next appointment didn't turn up... "Oh, wonderful" she joked "We can have a double dose of torture!"), with the sun shining outside, this moment is magical, it is amazing, is is wonderful, it is never to be repeated, I had better enjoy it now.

We had better enjoy our nows because life is lived in nows and each now passes. Some day you will run out of nows so you had better start enjoying this one, now. It is one of life's many special moments.

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