Personal and Leadership Development

No: 493 - Sepember 22, 2016

There is an old saying that there are only two things that we are certain of in life… death and taxes. I’d like to add a third – you can decide what to call it when you’ve read this!

A short while back an elderly relative sadly passed away. And, like all passings, in the midst of all the sadness, the mundane tidying up had to be done: gas and electric bills paid, telephone and internet accounts sorted. The gas and electric were OK but, what is it about communications companies that they don’t know how to communicate?

In each case, nasty letters threatening to cut the dead man off started arriving. When they were reminded that they’d already been informed of the situation, the companies rightly apologized and promised that it wouldn’t happen again. But you know what’s coming!

Regular nasty letters – the ‘phone company addressed the individual as “Deceased”, telling him he had to call to their office within seven days! The internet company sent him a new bill for the next quarter! Each time they were reminded of what had happened, each time they apologized.

But, when his daughter arrived to clear out the deceased’s apartment, she was greeted by a very threatening debt collector… or should that read death collector?

	A Quick Tip
	GET OUT IN THE AIR
	Get out in the air today – go for a walk just to go for a walk, to see, feel, hear, smell and taste the reality of the moment. Take your time, stroll. Give yourself ten or fifteen minutes – it will be most important quarter hour you will spend today. Let your mind clear, let it be overwhelmed by your own senses. Do not, at any stage, think about or evaluate what you are seeing, feeling, hearing, smelling or tasting – just spend the time training your mind to, first and foremost, be under your own control and, secondly, be attentive to the real world.

	DOING THE NEEDFUL
	Your life today may be on overdrive – not enough hours in the day, too much to do and too little time in which to do it – we all live full lives. What you think about what you have to do and how equipped you are to do it will determine whether you do it well and successfully or whether you procrastinate, long-finger things, worry about not having them done and then feel guilty that they’re not yet done. We do terrible things to our own heads, in our own heads. Which is easier: to do what we know we need to do or to put it off, worry that we’ve put it off and feel guilty? How much energy do you waste by putting things off? How much more pleased with yourself would you be if you just bloody what you know you can’t avoid doing? But, more to the point… if you simply did the needful, you’d give your own self-worth a boost; you’d enhance your own belief in your ability to get things done and, most importantly, you’d have loads of time to do bigger, better, more exciting things that would bring you to where you want to go in life. You’d become one of life’s winners – a wonderboy or wondergirl – because normal crazy people will always put off to tomorrow what they need to do today.

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