Stop, close your eyes for a moment and, I was going to say... breathe! But, you're doing that already, use the next couple of moments to really experience and appreciate your breathing. Breathe in the reality of the moment with each sensation in your nostrils. Experience the here and now - that's all it take to be here, now.
I know, I'm a regular seasoned traveller and I should know better but the way airlines treat their paying customers never ceases to amaze. I also know that my couple of little stories here pale into insignificance when compared to being assaulted in the course of being removed from an overbooked flight but, let's assume (perhaps wrongly!) that that was an out of the normal crazy incident. The incidents that I want to talk about are everyday... unfortunately. Having developed my own App (cheap plug, see below!!) I've got into using airlines Apps (I'm a slow learner) and discovered that the Flight Trackers on these Apps allow you to be corporately lied to in real time... where else could you get such hi-tech dishonesty. Last week the Flight Tracker told me "Your departure has been delayed by one hour to allow us replace your aircraft which had displayed a potential technical fault". When we got on the plane three hours later the pilot told us "Sorry we're so late, there was a fault with the aircraft and it took us a lot longer than we thought it would to figure it out and fix it!" - not sure now whether I should believe the Flight Tracker which concluded by telling me "Your safety is our priority". Treating passengers - or "guests" as one airline now puts it! - properly is certainly not a priority. A couple of weeks ago my flight was cancelled. Pandamonium ensued. But the Pilot assured everyone at the Departure Gate that the ground staff would ensure that all our overnight accommodation needs were effortlessly looked after (I think he actually used that word). Now you and I both know that that's one big lie. Because, as soon as he and his crew were whisked to waiting hotel luxury, the ground staff announced "You go online and book a hotel yourself - we can't help you!"
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From daily tips to reflections, from Normal Crazy People to Mini-Meditations, from Quizzes on how your mind works to the daily Check-In facility... MYpsyberCoach enables you embed purposeful mindfulness in your life, right here, right now.
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FINDING, MAKING AND TAKING THE GAP
If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thousand times: "I meditate when I'm in trouble!" There are a variety of variants to this statement but they all boil down to the same thing... I try to get my head straight when it's too late.
Of course, it's better late than never and it's never too late but how much less likely would be be to reach that point of need if we looked after ourselves with such regularity that we never, as one client puts it, "get to the verge" - or, worse, go over it!
Mental fitness is like physical fitness - it impacts every single aspect of your life and wellbeing. But, unlike the rigours of a physical fitness regime, your mental fitness can be done in small "gaps" in your day and, even more unlike physical fitness, every little investment you make in your mental fitness is, as another client puts it, "banked" - you keep building on the progress you've already made and, even though, when you do reach that verge, you might think to yourself that you've slipped backwards, you never do! Those slips are momentary and always and immediately recoverable.
So, what kind of "gaps" are we talking about? Well, a five or six minute gap first thing in the morning is hardly tantamount to my asking you to rearrange your day or your life! You spend more time reading or listening to news that you shouldn't be wasting your time on at all. And, even if you set your alarm to get up five minutes earlier, it's going to make no difference to the amount of sleep you get - but will make the world of difference to your waking hours.
And, then, you need to find, make or take gaps during the day - for just 90 or 120 seconds - the time it takes to read an unnecessary email or, more to the point, the time it takes for your mind to drag you down a blind alley and mug you with some counter-productive thought. Smokers take more time to have a cigarette!!! Most importantly, every ninety seconds you take is not only banked, it reboots you there and then (here and now, actually!) to get back into the zone, feel the flow and enjoy the ride.
Look after your mental fitness when you don't need it so that you're fully fit when you do.
LEARN HOW TO MANAGE YOUR MIND... OR IT WILL CONTINUE TO MISMANAGE YOU
In one intensive but relaxed day, you will learn what is wrong with our normal neural "wiring" and how, as a result, our mind normally works against us. You will learn how to:
Purposefully focus - it doesn't come naturally, we're actually "wired" to not focus
Set goals in a way that energizes your subconscious into focused effortless action
Make your very best decisions and solve problems with ease - your brain can do this effortlessly
Banish stress - we're ordinarily "wired" to be stressed